This couple is notoriously quiet about their family, but there are some details we do know.
Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes Relationship Timeline
Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are famously one of Hollywood’s most private couples. Despite being together since 2011 and raising two daughters, the public wasn’t even certain they were married until November 2022. Still, they have managed to keep their family life protected for over a decade, making them one of the most stable and enduring relationships in the industry.
In 2017, Gosling broke from their usual low-profile approach when he publicly praised Mendes while accepting his Golden Globe for La La Land. During his speech, he thanked her for supporting their family while he filmed the movie, acknowledging that she was raising their daughter, pregnant with their second child, and helping her brother through cancer treatment at the same time. He made it clear that without her sacrifices, he would not have been standing on that stage.
Below is everything we know about Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes’s relationship, with the most recent updates first.
February 14, 2025
Mendes showed support for Gosling’s upcoming film Project Hail Mary by posting black-and-white Instagram photos wearing a “Believe in the Hail Mary” T-shirt. She captioned the post, “For my Valentine,” making it a subtle but affectionate tribute.
August 4, 2024
The couple made a rare joint public appearance at the 2024 Summer Olympics in Paris, marking their first major outing together in years.
April 29, 2024
In an interview with Glamour, Mendes clarified previous comments about having a “nonverbal agreement” with Gosling to pause her acting career. She explained that stepping back was not impulsive but a thoughtful decision. Acting often requires months away on location, and she wanted to prioritize being present for their children while still finding creative ways to work professionally.
March 26, 2024
Speaking on Today, Mendes revealed that she and Gosling had an understanding that she would focus on their children while he worked. She described it as a natural decision, explaining that acting demands extensive travel, but she continued working in other ways behind the scenes.
Eva Mendes opened up to TODAY about her now-partner Ryan Gosling:
— TODAY (@TODAYshow) March 26, 2024
“I’ve never experienced anything like that. The way he works, his commitment to his craft, how he wants to make everything as best as it can be — and that means making his costars as best as they can be.” pic.twitter.com/HZCxAmVpJv
March 11, 2024
A source told People that the family had moved further north, away from central Los Angeles, to provide a more private upbringing for their daughters. According to the source, the couple values their marriage deeply and wants their children to grow up outside the typical Hollywood spotlight.
March 10, 2024
Mendes accompanied Gosling to the Oscars but did not walk the red carpet. Instead, she shared a video from his dressing room and later celebrated his performance of “I’m Just Ken,” playfully reminding him to come home to put the kids to bed.
Following her man’s absolutely epic performance of “I’m Just Ken,” Mendes congratulates him and indicates they’re headed home. Oh, and ignore all the comments asking why she didn’t “go with him” to the Oscars; she’s literally posting from his dressing room, in his costume. He probably took this picture.
“Now come home, we need to put the kids to bed.”
January 24, 2024
After Gosling received an Oscar nomination for his role as Ken in Barbie, Mendes posted screenshots of earlier criticism questioning his casting. She expressed pride in his performance and defended him against past doubts.
“So much hate when he took on this role. So many people trying to shame him for doing it. Despite all the #Notmyken ridicule and articles written about him, he created this completely original, hilarious, heartbreaking, now iconic character…So beyond proud to be this Ken’s Barbie 💕,” she wrote.
January 13, 2024: While accepting the Kirk Douglas Award for Excellence in Film at the Santa Barbara International Film Festival, Gosling thanked Mendes in the most heart-melting way. “Most importantly, I got to meet the girl of my dreams, Eva Mendes, and have two dream children,” he said, per People. “I dreamed of one day making movies, and now, movies have made my life a dream.”
December 20, 2023: Mendes shared Gosling’s holiday recording of “I’m Just Ken,” giving producer Mark Ronson a shout-out for “getting my man to make more music.” Revealing that her husband’s rock band, Dead Man’s Bones, is her favorite, she added, “When I first heard Ryan sing, MY HEART EXPLODED.”
And while the post was objectively adorable, one commenter jokingly side-eyed Mendes for calling Gosling “my man,” reminding her that “we all love him.” Of course, Mendes had the perfect response: “You’re right! Our Man. It’ll never happen again. Merry Christmas! Lots of love!!”
July 7, 2023: Eva Mendes spent pretty much the entire Barbie press tour hyping up her husband on social media. “To say he’s the greatest actor I’ve ever worked with is an understatement,” she wrote on July 7. When Access Hollywood asked what her support means to him, Gosling kept it simple: “It means everything.”
July 9, 2023: While his costar Margot Robbie used the Barbie premiere as the perfect moment to channel an actual 1961 Barbie doll, Ryan Gosling skipped the full-on Ken cosplay and went for something sweeter—an understated nod to Eva Mendes. The actor hit the Barbie world-premiere red carpet in Los Angeles on July 9 in a pink Gucci suit, topped off with a necklace featuring an “E” pendant in the Barbie font—presumably for Eva. Aww.
July 5, 2023: After Barbie director Greta Gerwig sang Gosling’s praises in an interview with Rolling Stone, Mendes reposted Gerwig’s quote on Instagram, adding a message of her own.
Speaking about Gosling’s onscreen talent as Ken, Gerwig said, “It’s some combination of Marlon Brando meets Gene Wilder meets John Barrymore meets John Travolta.”
In the caption on her Instagram post, Mendes added, “One of my favorite things the insanely talented & beautiful GRETA GERWIG says in @rollingstone about Mi Hombre, Mi Vida, Mi Amor …RG💗,” she wrote.
May 2023: In GQ’s May cover story, Gosling offered a rare peek into his family life with Eva, Esmeralda, and Amada, and explained how he prepared for fatherhood, or honestly, how he did not.
The actor said he had not pictured himself as a dad until “Eva said she was pregnant.” He added, “I would never want to go back, you know? I’m glad I didn’t have control over my destiny in that way, because it was so much better than I ever had dreamed for myself.”
As for parenting, Gosling says he and Mendes are a true team. “I just lean on Eva,” he said when asked about parenting advice. “She knows what’s important, always. She just somehow knows. So if ever I’m in my head about it, I just ask her.”
He also spoke romantically about life before and after Eva. “I was looking for her, you know?” When asked if he was “conscious” of his search, he replied, “No. But it all makes sense now.”
November 2022: The secret is out. Mendes and Gosling are married, and they likely had been for years. Early in the month, Mendes sparked fan speculation by posting an image of her “de Gosling” wrist tattoo on Instagram. On November 18, she confirmed their marital status by referring to Gosling as her husband during an interview with Channel Nine’s Today, per Elle.
When asked about the wedding rumors on Australia’s Kyle and Jackie O Show podcast, Mendes replied, “But who says we weren’t already? I like to keep it all mysterious. I’m a very mysterious woman.” As for the tattoo, Mendes says she got it “years ago.”
July 2022: Ryan Gosling said his wife was fully supportive of his “Kenergy” while filming the highly anticipated Barbie movie. “She started a hashtag, #ThatsMyKen, which meant a lot to me,” he said during BBC’s The One Show, per PopSugar UK. That same month, Gosling shared a rare anecdote about his youngest daughter on The Tonight Show, which you can watch here:
June 2022: During an appearance on The Talk, Mendes said she got to keep the Calvin Klein inspired “Ken” underwear from her husband’s promotional Barbie photo shoot. “I saw the photo and the 14 year old in me was like, ‘Ahhhhh,’” Mendes said. “It’s a funny photo and he’s trying to be funny, so it worked on all levels. But when I saw it, he sent it to me from work, and I said, ‘Can I please have that underwear? Please. I never ask for anything.’”
May 2022: In an interview with People, Mendes opened up about how she and Gosling divide things at home. “Ryan’s the cook. He’s an incredible cook,” she said. “There’s a really nice rhythm to ‘You cook, I clean.’ It genuinely works for us.”
October 2021: Gosling reflected on parenting alongside Mendes during the pandemic. “Our kids are young, so it was really hard for them to be away from other kids and not see family and all of that,” he told GQ. “We just tried to keep them entertained as best we could. Honestly, I think Eva and I did more acting in quarantine than we’ve done in our entire careers.”
March 2020: Mendes explained why she keeps her relationship off social media. Responding to a fan on Instagram, she wrote, “When it comes to Ryan, I’ll only share throwbacks that are already public, like stills from movies we’ve done.” She added, “My man and my kids are private. That’s really important to me, so thank you for understanding. Have a beautiful day. Sending so much love!”
April 2019: Mendes shared that she intentionally shields their daughters from the Hollywood spotlight. “The fame part of this life can feel really scary when you’re raising kids,” she told Women’s Health. “I make a point not to let them see me focus on how I look or get ready for events. They’ve never watched me prepare for something or seen me on set. That’s just my choice. For me, keeping it normal means they simply see me as Mom. And I’m completely happy being Mom.”
September 2017: On one of their rare public outings, the two were spotted leaving the SNL after-party at Tao in New York, keeping things low key but clearly together.
January 2017: Accepting a Golden Globe for La La Land, Gosling reflects on Mendes’s sacrifices.
Congrats to @RyanGosling, who won #GoldenGlobes Best Performance by an Actor in a Motion Picture – Musical or Comedy! pic.twitter.com/KQUy719r5P
— Golden Globes (@goldenglobes) January 9, 2017
April 2016: They welcomed their second daughter, Amada Lee. Later that year, Gosling told GQ, “Your whole life you hear what it’s like to have kids, and all the clichés are true. I thought I understood that everything would change, but until you live it, there’s no way to really know what people mean. I only know what it’s like to have my kids. And in my situation, Eva’s the dream mother, and they’re dream babies, and it’s like I’m living a dream right now. I’m dreaming it all.”
September 2014: Gosling and Mendes became parents for the first time, welcoming a daughter named Esmeralda Amada.
September 2011: The two reportedly connected while filming The Place Beyond the Pines, which later premiered in 2012. Not long after, Gosling and Mendes were spotted on a Disneyland date, following brief dalliances with Olivia Wilde and Jason Sudeikis, respectively. In a very Hollywood twist, Wilde and Sudeikis went on to start their own long term relationship that same year. The pair, who split in November 2020, also share two children.
